There was months of endless planning, a whirlwind day of perfect celebration and a romantic honeymoon, but when it’s all over there is still one important task on your to-do list. The Thank You card is one of the most forgotten parts of a wedding, but it is one of the more important details because it lets your guests know how appreciative you are for their attendance and generosity. Yes, it is a time consuming process, but instead of seeing it as a chore, look at it as a great way to spend some time remembering the people and moments that made your wedding day extra special and bask in the last little piece of wedding planning you will get to do.

Here is a little bit of advice to ensure you thank your guests properly.

Be Organised

The more organised you are, the better - start thinking about your Thank You cards before the wedding. Order them at the same time as you order your wedding invitations, this way you can coordinate them with the rest of your stationery and post wedding, you will have them ready to go.

As you open your gifts, use your guest list as a checklist to record each gift received next to the person who gifted it to ensure there are no mix-ups. You should also have saved all your guests addresses from when you sent the invitations and have them ready to go.


Contrary to popular belief, you do not have a year to send your Thank You cards. As a general rule, you should send them out no longer than 3 months after your wedding, but guests will always appreciate them sooner. If it so happens that time gets away from you, remember that a late Thank You note is always preferable to no Thank You note at all.


Complete the overall impression and tone of your big day with Thank You cards that coordinate with the rest of your wedding and ‘day of’ stationery. You could also consider using your Thank You cards as an opportunity to show off your first pictures together as newlyweds. Though be wary that of the amount of time it will take to get your photos back from the photographer and how this will affect your timeliness. Including a snapshot or two of the attendees at your wedding along with your card is also a great way to personalise your Thank You cards.

Who Gets One? 

Regardless of whether or not a gift was given, anyone who attended your wedding, helped you plan, set up, ran errands, listened to a bridal rant or helped look after your drunk uncle at the wedding should receive a Thank You card. Whilst it’s not necessary, it is also nice to acknowledge your wedding vendors. If you really loved your vendors and they went above and beyond for you, one of the greatest gifts you can give them is not just a note of thanks, but a public testimonial via their Facebook page or other social media.

What Do I Write?

Pre-printed or typed notes have always been, and still are, a big no-no. A Thank You card requires stationery, a personalized, handwritten message, a stamp, and a trip to the post box. You don’t need to write much, just follow this simple formula: address the giver, express your gratitude making sure you reference the gift specifically and say how you plan to use it. For monetary gifts, it is not necessary to mention the dollar amount, but it’s nice to allude to how you plan to use the money.

Keep the sentiment meaningful from one card to the next by including a memorable anecdote, acknowledging any help given during the planning process or mentioning your appreciation for long distances travelled. Wrap it up with a final statement of thanks and a nod to when you may see that person again. Sign it off with love and you’re done.

Divide & Conquer

Dividing the note-writing duties will ensure the task doesn’t become too overwhelming. Let your spouse write to their family and friends whilst you write to yours and don’t attempt to write them all in one sitting - your hand will cramp, your handwriting will go downhill and you’re ability to be original will fade.

The bottom line is that you want to express your gratitude to all the people who went out of their way, spent their time and money and did or gave something special on your wedding day. Remember the gratitude that you feel for them and the process will be much easier and far more meaningful.

Happy writing…







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